Love and Be Loved Better

Did you know that disappointment is one of the top reasons relationships fail?

But how do we keep ourselves or our loved one from being disappointed?

Disappointments are caused by unmet expectations. So basically, you just need to manage your expectations. Sounds easy? Not really.

So what are the things we get disappointed about in a relationship? 

The most basic and most important one is how we receive love. Some of us love showing our affection regardless of who is around. However, some are not comfortable with that. Others may want to hear the words I love you often. While some barely say it.

But did you know that we also get disappointed when the love we give is not received well?

We get frustrated when a loved one doesn’t appreciate a gift we gave or a meal we cooked.

Everyone experiences love differently. It’s easy to miss the mark when showing love.

So really, how do you make sure you receive the love you want and be appreciated for the love that you give? You have to know each other’s Love Language!

Love Language is how we speak when we express how we love.

Knowing your Love Language allows you to give and receive love in more meaningful ways. It helps you grow closer. 

The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate is a 1992 book by Gary Chapman. It outlines five ways to express and experience love between romantic partners that Chapman calls "love languages."

  1. Words of affirmation- This language uses words to affirm and build up the other person. 

    For example, “Thanks for helping me wash the dishes” as compared to “It’s about time to clean after yourself.” 


  1. Gifts – A gift shows that you remembered someone. It doesn’t matter how expensive it is.
  2. Acts of Service – Action speaks louder than words. Doing something for your loved one that you know they would appreciate like washing the dishes.
  3. Quality time – It is being “all there.” It is being both physically and emotionally present. It is about giving your undivided attention.
  4. Physical touch –A warm hug and a passionate kiss shows how much you love a person.

You probably know yourself and can identify which one resonates with you the most. But if you want a more accurate result, you may take the quiz HERE

What’s good about Dr. Gary Chapman’s Love Language Quiz is that you can take them regardless of what season of life you are in.

So go ahead, don’t waste your time and know how to love and loved better today.

In the words of Dr. Gary Chapman, “Love is a choice you make every day.”